The "ask all questions right away" thing is as I see it only there to prevent holding on to questions, doing something that changes the sitch, and asking "well, who's in control of it now? I've never had it mean you have to state all the three questions before getting an answer. So maybe you ask "Who's really in control here?", and if it's under control (heh) you can ask for previous events and useful or valuable things, but if it's unstable you can ask what you should be on the lookout for specifically.
That's how I'd call it anyway: ask all your questions before people start doing things again, but if you want to wait for my answer to one before deciding on the next one, that's fine.