A quick question about spending strings

This came up in our first Monsterhearts game last night.

A player spends a String on another PC and offers them XP to do what they want.
The other player refuses.
Is the String still spent?

I couldn't find a definitive answer in the book, but I feel I might be overlooking something.

Thanks!

I don't see it expressly stated in the book, but my interpretation is yes. The String is spent. The text says "You can spend a String to..." You don't get the String back on any of the other things you can spend them on, so I don't think this option is any different.

Don't think of it as spending a String to force a PC to do what you want. Instead think of it as spending a String to get the chance to offer them XP to do what you want. Something you normally can't do.

That's pretty much how I interpreted it too, yeah.