I don't understand how cool would even work here. You've not described anything that would have the stakes for a cool move.
I disagree completely. Cool is keeping your nerve while you're trying to restrain Dremmer and he fucking bites you. Cool is not escalating the situation and accidentally killing him because he pissed you off.
HE's the fire, not you.
For me the breakdown is easy - if you're willing (and able) to inflict Harm (actual, honest-to-god Harm, not some milquetoast base-0-Harm bullshit), then sure, you can
seize by force. But understand that even inflicting the bare-handed 1-Harm on an NPC means you had to
literally beat Dremmer half to death to keep him from going through that door. Fucker just
would not stay down. That can (and should) have consequences.
But if you're trying to
avoid Harm all the way around? Nah, man, that's Cool. As in, "hoping that cooler heads prevail." There's nothing that says that Cool can't involve physical contact or violence, but in my opinion it's the ultimate intent behind what you're trying to achieve (i.e. hurting or not hurting Dremmer as you keep him outside) that matters most.
P.S. Going Aggro with 0-harm is LOL, and should be treated as such. It's a bad bluff, at best. So hard. Player clearly doesnt want whatever they're doing enough. That said, I've had go aggro rolled on blackmail, do this OR I"LL TELL! And thats works out fine.
I disagree again. If there's no immediate violence on offer, that's not
go aggro, that's
manipulate, if for no other reason than that it's funny to watch Tough Guys (TM) have to roll+Hot.